Would you tell your friend to go to the doctor and get professional advice?
The New Zealand attitude for as long as I can remember has always been, “she’ll be right”! Only when something huge happens do we pay attention and finally spring to action.
In this day and age, with cancer rates higher than ever, depression and suicide rates at an all-time high, and consumer debt continuing to rapidly rise, we must be more willing to accept professional advice. We must be able to stop and say to a mate, “Maybe you need to get some help or see someone. There’s no need for you to go it alone.” We can no longer shrug our shoulders and tell ourselves it’s their choice and they can do what they like. We can no longer say to ourselves that the pain of others is not our problem. We can no longer dismiss someone just because they don’t ask for help.
I think that we, as friends, have the obligation to raise these issues and kindly encourage people to see someone and seek treatment or advice. Everyone should be comfortable doing this. We can’t assume that friends don’t want or need our help just because they don’t ask.
We’re all quite comfortable and quick on the draw when offering advice about the best phone to buy or the best restaurants to check out, but when it comes to something more important or more serious, we too often shy away and don’t step up.
We all need help from time to time
Everyone, at some point in their lives, will find themselves in need of a bit of help. This could be professional psychiatric advice, a doctor, or even a mortgage broker.
If you believe that any of your mates may need the assistance of a professional, then encouraging them to get this help is our responsibility. We all love our mates, so let’s look out for one another. If you notice any of your mates showing any of these worrying symptoms, this may be a good time to step in and encourage them to get some help:
- Having financial trouble and struggling to pay their bills
- Credit cards are maxed out
- They have a family with no wills in place
- They have gone through a hard relationship breakup
- They have an inheritance they are not sure what to do with
These are some classic examples of when your friends may need some sort of professional advice. It might be that there is no problem, and everything is under control, or there may be a bigger issue looming beneath the surface.
So, if you could help a mate out, would you? Do your friends a favour and help them out by recommending they see someone. It may change their life.
Insurance and mortgage help is available
If you notice any of the above, feel free to put your mates in touch with Rethink Group. If we can help with any of the above, we will. If we can’t directly help, we’ll find someone who can.